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How a therapist manages her mindset on the hard days

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Here’s a sneak peek of a strategy I teach my clients (and one I use myself too)…

Listen, I’m in the business of helping my clients architect a powerhouse success mindset. I love it and it’s literally the work I was put on this Earth to do.

But this doesn’t mean I don’t have my own crappy days where I find myself deep in the black hole of my own head noise. And digging myself out isn’t always a piece of cake either, but I do know what works so I feel better FASTER, and so I learn the lesson I’m supposed to learn in that moment.

Because things always happen FOR us, not TO us.

One of the things I teach my clients (and that I totally lean into when I need to) is the idea of “Moving the Dial“. Meaning – that I don’t try to go from 0 to 100 with my mindset on the hard days.

I don’t try to turn it all around with positive thinking or affirmations. Do I use both when I need to? Yes. But I use them in believable doses.

Instead of trying to move the dial all the way to the other end, I move it one hashmark forward.  When I’m deep in a rabbit hole, I don’t use mantras that pretend everything’s okay. I simply find gratitude for the smallest thing that’s going well in that moment and let myself soak that up.

For example, “Even though I’m really pissed off/sad/scared right now, I’m grateful the sun is shining on my face…or that my favorite song is on the radio…or that I get to have tacos for lunch.” You get the picture.

This is really about finding the good even in the shit, but in believable ways. And then not putting so much pressure on yourself to always be in a great headspace all the time.

Let yourself be a human having a human experience. End of story.


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